I wasn't saying sex was the main or only reason for confusion.  I was just implying it was part of a reason to many people.  From music, tv, commercials, tv shows, sexual content is everywhere.  It's what many people think of when you mention relationships.  Not all, but some.  As Christians, hopefully we don't.  It's not our target.  Sex is meant to be beautiful and pleasure between two people who love each other and become one.  It keeps many in bondage because of the spiritual connection God intended for it to be.  We'll talk about that later..

We hear its what is on the inside is what counts.  It should.  Our bodies change.  Our physical appearance changes.  It's not bad to be attractive or be drawn by looks of another person.  We don't want to be with someone we are not attracted to. 

But about the confusion.  It's fun to be in a relationship because, well, it's nice to have someone.  But it's also fun about the mystery of it.  Relationships are an adventure of themselves.  It should be fun, growing, learning, etc.

I don't believe love is instantaneous.  I believe it's a growing connection of intimacy.  Crush>>Like>>Like A lot>>falling in love>>loving them>>being in love with them.  That's what I think. 

The crush may start by the physical attraction or similar interests.  You may become close friends rather than a couple, it happens... thats a mystery of why you begin to like someone more than a friend rather than someone else you may be closer too.  It's a mystery, fun.

Well I am pretty tired, you can probably tell by my typing.  Enjoy the chats.

Time To Start Fresh.

I have learned a lot about myself and relationships.  I personally admit I can be "girl crazy" but I am breaking that.  I am a fighter and am fighting that area in my life.  I don't want to like one girl then if it doesn't work out, move on.  I don't want to give out my heart again until she is the one.  Period.

To start this study, I am going to start off by answering some questions.. responses are welcome.

Did God intend for relationships to be this confusing?

No.  I don't believe He did.  When I read the Bible, there were some crazy, awesome love stories.  Hosea and the prostitute, the love written in Songs of Solomon, etc.  The Bible states that confusion is not from Him.

Why, then, are relationships confusing?

Because we live in a sexual driven society now.  Commercials, sports, everything is previewed in some sexual fashion.  It gets in our minds even when we don't want or think about it.  It's in music, in clothes, in fashion, in tv shows, in cartoons, etc.  Once we have become sexual with someone, we become one and theres a spiritual bondage there.  God intended for us to be married/sexual to ONE person.  Does that mean whom we have had sex with is the one?  NO!  It means God can break you free from that connection, but its gonna take some hard work. 

It's partly why I put those rules on my Bible study (on markusb xanga).  To clear out minds and completely inner and focus on God's mind. 

God wants a relationship to be worship just as much as our "job" will be worship.  A relationship should be beautiful.  A spiritual, loving, connection between two people of the opposite sex driven by LOVE, not sex!

Sex, when married, is worship in a sense.  I challenge you to listen to worship for one week, no movies or television maybe, study school, pray, read, hang out with friends, try not to make sexual jokes just for ONE WEEK and see how your mind has changed.

That's all for now.  I hope its not being to hard.  But a relationship should be awesome, fun, growing, love, learning, connection... not confusion.

Give me a few days to gather some information that I have from my book I wrote on love, some notes, and other things I have... and the study will once again begin more in depth, more challenging, more spiritual, and I pray you will get something out of it.

I won't ask for comments, but I just want you to think and share your opinions, suggestions, etc when you get chances.

Feel free to IM me if you have any questions or what not:  MarkLuvGod

Sometimes I have to wonder, did God intend for relationships to be as troubling as they are? 

First let us look at the first instance of what happened.  Adam was created.  God put Adam over the animals, nature, etc.  Why?  God gave him liberty to name them.  First, God gives us liberty/free will to choose. 

After Adam did what God wanted.  After Adam was submissive to God.. THEN God said "it is not good for man to be alone". 

Once we are submitted fully to God.. the closer and more in love we become with God.. the more love we can share and experience with someone else. 

God first wants us to be a devoted follow to Him.  Not perfect, but devoted.  A commitment. 

Sorry this was short but I have a lot to do and a lot on my mind this weekend.